Books on dating someone with bipolar disorder
“One-night stands on a low mood can be awful and lead to incredible self-loathing.
I self-harmed after one, head-butted a wall,” Tom tells me.
Tina, who has bipolar disorder, has been with her current partner for six years and finds that her volatility is the real test: “He's been so supportive and patient with me.
But because I can't control my actions, thoughts and feelings sometimes, I find it hard to show him how much I love and appreciate him.” Which brings us on to the depressive lows.
But as Dr Nick Craddock points out, dealing with a mismatch in sex drives is a problem for many couples, irrespective of bipolar.
With my current partner, if I’m really low I will push him away, not letting him touch or kiss me.” Yet if someone in a depressed bipolar state, or the common mixed state – where features of hypomania combine with those of depression - starts to self-medicate with sex, the result is rarely positive.
Hypersexuality, a frequent urge for sexual activity, has long been touted as a symptom of bipolar, which is said to become apparent as individual descends into into a manic or hypomanic state.
However, it’s now the subject of much debate amongst both medical professionals and those with the condition.
And then there’s the increased risk of STIs and pregnancy.” As Tom, a 27-year-old student from Wales, who has just been diagnosed and has only just started on medication, put it: “My sex drive can be virtually insatiable.
It might seem all good when you’re ex is telling you they love how dirty you are, but I had a one-night-stand without using a condom that embarrasses me to this day.Individuals learn to watch out for triggers that may send them spinning into an exaggerated mood state.