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If every time you hang out – or fairly early in the conversation with an attractive new person at a party – the conversation repeatedly turns to being queer, what it means, how you experience it, how you came out, etc…then it’s worth considering it might be a hint.Bonus points for meeting each other’s eyes intensely and then looking away.As a bisexual, feminine presenting woman of color, I’ve been told everything from “you just haven’t come out as fully gay yet” to “you’re not queer, you’re just curious.” I’ve even had potential partners tell me “I would never date you because you would cheat on me with someone from another gender.” These comments are all based on harmful stereotypes of bisexual folks as promiscuous and closeted.
I kept up the façade that I was straight by only showing interest in men, presenting myself in a more conventionally feminine manner, and limiting my interactions with queer individuals.They might not, of course, but especially in company with significant glances and/or verbal flirtation, it’s worth looking out for.This is a bit of a cultural flashpoint, alas – wider Western culture seems to have problems interpreting sexuality between women as 'real.' But by the same token, it is also sometimes much easier to express platonic affection for a female friend physically precisely because it is less likely to be interpreted as a come on.Research shows that I am a long way from the only person who gets tongue-tied, physically awkward and socially incompetent in the presence of women I find attractive.
If I can’t say anything or I'm generally displaying zero visible social skills, the chances are I fancy someone in the vicinity.If I’m utterly absorbed in one person, it’s probably a sign of sexual interest – or at least the kind of Right Yes You Are A Person I Want In My Life Now sense of security and attraction that often blurs with sexual attraction in my sapio-sexual consciousness.