Dating guide for single women
Don’t tell someone that you will phone and that you can’t wait to see them again, if you have no intention of following through. Leave your emotional baggage at home If you have a huge line in exes, a past addiction to therapy and you still can’t forgive your Dad for missing your sports' day when you were five, keep it to yourself on your first date.Too much emotional baggage, too soon, is never attractive. A first date is not the time to try out being the person you’d like to be, or the person you think your date would like you to be.If you end up in a relationship – you’ll have plenty of opportunity to air your past sexual history, your hang-ups and all your past regrets and mistakes. After all, you don’t want them falling in love with a false version of you.A first date, like a first interview, is the time to emphasise your best points not to draw attention to your weaknesses. You want someone who likes you for all you are, with your good bits, your not so good bits, your little quirky bits and all the things in between that make you, you. Don’t dominate the conversation If you do all the talking – especially about yourself – it will give the impression that you aren’t interested in your date.Sex is a powerful bonder and if you sleep together on the first date it may blind you to any fundamental problems between you.
Is this person going to be the “One” or will I want to run for the hills before the starter?
Stick with the truth and it will be a lot easier to remember what you said on future dates. Don’t make an instant judgement Many of us make up our minds as to whether we like someone in the first few seconds or minutes of meeting. I nearly ditched my gorgeous husband on the second date because he was wearing a tight polyester sports top and I’m not a great fan of man-made fibres (apparently I wasn’t meant to see it, but he got too hot under his thick jumper).