Dating non committal man
As I am traveling, I most often come across the average man on the street, like the stall owner or rickshaw driver.I must admit that after a few weeks of observing him I found myself almost completely repulsed by men.My simplistic explanation on why this behaviour is tolerated comes down to the arranged marriage.The men I have observed undertaking this behaviour tend to be of lesser socio-economic means, and in my rudimentary understanding of the intricacies of Indian culture, I believe they are more likely to have an arranged marriage.I don’t understand what the attraction is to shiny pants, thick striped shirts and hair that is carefully patted down to one side and glistening with coconut oil.Don’t get me wrong, I am far less interested in a person’s looks, but a sense of personal style is part of what makes someone attractive in my opinion, and what someone’s mother finds attractive is not usually what a potential mate may find appealing.
Whilst I am not looking for a long-term relationship per se, I do enjoy the company of men (platonic and romantic) and it would be nice to make some friends in my new homeland.Also it is unclear to me if the separation of men and women (for example in the trains) is a reaction to the violence or the cause.Feeling a little uneasy, I continue on with my internet research and find this blog on Reasons to Marry an Indian Man.In my opinion, if they had to go out and attract a woman entirely on their own (and assuming she had unfettered free will and choice in the matter), they would be less likely to indulge in these behaviours. In years past I have come to India for work, and in my current stay in Delhi I am living with family and am privy to another side of India.
Whilst the professional men that I have met don’t have the more distasteful personal habits, I do still find them very difficult to understand.
After having arranged to meet someone (platonic or romantic) I generally turn up alone, or if I have reservations I may have a friend politely bid their farewells when they are comfortable the person I am meeting is not a criminal. He had a quick wit and a gorgeous smile, I would have liked to have spent some time getting to know him without a chaperone.