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" But, sadly, a few months later, your conversation changed to, "I can't believe he turned out to be so emotionally unavailable, and commitment-phobic." There are people who chronically meet and date individuals who, at first, seem so perfect for a warm, loving relationship. it's so easy to become intoxicated during that early infatuation stage when you meet someone who fits your pictures and seems like the perfect match. Our deep love for them can put us in denial of the fact that they are unavailable for an intimate, close relationship with us.But when those same "in love" people take off their rose colored glasses, they realize the person they thought was Mr. ("He's so good-looking," or "What a gorgeous woman! If a person is serious about finding an emotionally available person for a committed partnership, there are whole categories of people who should be avoided: people living in another state, those who are still married or in love with someone else, and people with addictions - be it workaholics or drug addicts.But for some reason i cant seem to be attracted to him more than a friend…Maybe my nice guy is coming soon, since all i see around me are alpha males who are all over the place trying to prove their manhood in ways that absolve them of that tile.The "booby prize" in life is trying to understand or change the behavior of an emotionally unavailable person.(Only they can change themselves.) People can be for both healthy and unhealthy reasons.Except there are two problems: Alpha males generally don’t like her. Well, you can never say never, but don’t you think that if alpha males were really good long-term prospects, you’d have landed one by now?The alpha males that do like her have some serious issues. I want you to look back into your own dating history and replay all your most meaningful relationships.
I enjoyed your article a lot….i cant believe i am about to say this but there is a kind and tender guy around me now after getting out of an emotionally and mentally abusive relationship.
Partnership is about finding someone who thinks YOU’RE worth sacrificing for.
If you’re the one making all the sacrifices because he’s too stubborn or egomaniacal, you’re just going to build up a lot of resentment. Attraction and chemistry are great relationship starters, but compatibility and compromise are the things that allow you to sustain it.
And if you end up MARRYING that man out of passion, well, guess what – you’ve bought his bad qualities for life. I WILL tell you, however, that the alpha qualities that attract you are the very things that create conflict in your life.
Alpha males assert their wills, work hard, play hard, like to conquer, and have enough ego to fuel a rocket ship.I didn’t realize this until years later, when comparing them to my wife.