Top dating mistakes men make
MORE: When a Guy Withdraws After Sex One of the biggest turn-offs to a man is a woman who acts entitled and just expects him to do things.Now men do love a woman with high standards, but they still want to be appreciated for things, they don’t want a woman who just expects him to do certain things and be a certain way.An even wiser man learns from the mistakes of others. Guys tend to go with the first impulse that comes into their heads.Typically that’s a self-serving impulse, but that’s not why we do it; we do it because it’s the first thing that came into our heads. Maybe listening more carefully will save the relationship. Or to turn off the game when the relationship needs attention.We were designed to live and work in a cooperative community.Learning how to draw strength from community remains a critical benchmark if we want to engage our full potential as men.Rather than just cut their losses, a lot of women go on a quest to convince this guy that he should want to be with her.She’ll text him funny things, happen to show up places where she knows he’ll be, she’ll initiate conversations, she may even ask him out. This is how things have always been and it’s just how they are.
He made the mistake many of us make by not surrounding himself with “go-to” guys who had his best interests in mind and shot straight with him. All of us make mistakes, but a wise man learns from them. It’s not so much that men are selfish—more that we simply don’t think.The guy may respond to her advances by being polite, and she may mistake this as him being somewhat interested, but he really doesn’t seem to reciprocate the feelings. Now I’m not saying guy’s are turned off by bold women, Sometimes it can be sexy when a woman initiates. Whether you’re insole or in a relationship, never, ever chase your guy.He may reply when you reach out, but he never initiates. But after that, she needs to leave it alone and give him some space to pursue her. If anything, pull back a bit and give him the space to come to you.If you are a regular ANM reader, you know that men absolutely appreciation.
That is the essential fuel a man needs to keep going in a relationship.And a lot of what I learned came through devastating personal experiences, I literally was a classic example of what to do for a large chunk of time.