Validating and empathizing
Or have you thought this decision all the way through and know with certainty that you truly want to leave the marriage and end things?Instead, consider enlisting a therapist or discernment counselor to help you explore your feelings about your marriage and whether or not there’s still work that can be done to improve the situation with your husband or wife. It seems like every workplace has them – the people for whom the weather is always too warm or too cold, the boss is a jerk, the food is lousy, work sucks and … No matter how good things get they still only see the bad – and they go to huge lengths to point it out to everyone around them.I’m not saying we should outlaw complaining, but workplaces need to do something about the complainers because they tend to make people around them unhappy at work.
” Guess what, you just became a complainer :o) 5: Ignoring them / avoiding them doesn’t work This makes complainers clamor for attention even more – which usually makes people ignore them even more. 6: Complaining along with them doesn’t work “You know what, you’re right, the boss IS a jerk. In fact everything sucks.” This can be kind of cosy because it creates bonding and an us-against-the-world feeling.
You’ve tried your hardest, but you just can’t seem to make your marriage work. But how do you start a divorce conversation with your spouse without devastating them or triggering an all-out war?